Is Lack of Adventure Sabotaging Your Dreams?
June 23, 2011 Last Friday, I had the opportunity to speak with Shirley Jusino of Adventure Realty Experience of New York.
Shirley has a unique story. She started her own "adventure real estate firm" last year after deciding that she wanted a career that was more rewarding and that better fit her personality. She now creates real estate "missions" for clients, where she sends text message "clues" to help them along their apartment hunt. It's a fun and memorable twist on a once stuffy and nerve-racking experience.
In talking with Shirley, I started thinking of how, the older we get, the less adventure we seem to have in our lives, and I wondered if that could be sabotaging our dreams. I asked Shirley what she often saw people do to sabotage their dreams, especially as it relates to not being adventurous, as well as for her tips for how to add more adventure to our lives so as to create a greater chance of reaching our dreams.
Here's what Shirley had to share.
Life is a daring adventure, or it is nothing. - Helen Keller
It's interesting that you mentioned getting out of your own way, because that's precisely why I feel many people do to sabotage themselves. Life is about choices and action. You just cannot sit there and complain about how horrible your life is and do nothing about it.
The perfect job, business opportunity, mate, vacation, or whatever it is that you want will not just come to you. You have to go out and make it happen.
An adventurous life is waiting for everyone, and I have just the five steps that can help anyone get out of their own way.
1) Be careful the company you keep.
Negative people can drain you of your joy. In order to associate with happier and successful people (the type of person you want to be), join networking groups, Meetup.com, or just do a search online for clubs and hobbies that you are interested in.
Stop making so many friends with people online that you will NEVER, EVER meet. Those numbers don't mean anything, if you don't really know them and they don't know you!
Being social in the real world will change you, because the other people's positive energy will influence you, educate you, and make you become the person you always wanted to be.
2) Follow up with the people you meet.
Now that you're going out and meeting new people, be sure to get a business card, email address, or phone number. Even a user name on a social networking site is good, as long as you keep in contact. Remember, what if that new business contact or friend has a new job, opportunity, or could even introduce you to your future spouse?!
Everyone I meet, whether in person or a conference call, I send an email and a nice "thank you" card, too. I call it the "Double Whammy Thank You." You would be surprised how happy it makes a person to actually FEEL that someone was happy to meet them, learn about them, and wants to go for coffee, tea, or frappuccino to get to know more about them. It was Oprah Winfrey who said on her last show that people NEED validation, and she's 100% right!
3) Stop telling yourself the same old story.
If all you talk about is being broke, how your kids drive you crazy, and the fact that your significant other isn't treating you well, it will only get WORSE! Buy yourself a notebook, get out a pen, and start writing out your new story -- life as you want it to be, as you FEEL it should be. Don't start complaining about what you don't have. Begin by writing out your day from beginning to the end. Be specific from the time you wake up until the time you go to bed:
When will you wake up? What will you wear? Where will you work? Where will you go? What type of friends do you have? What type of mate do you want, or how will you treat each other in your current relationship/marriage?
This is a script for your dreams. It's going to push you to go toward what you really want. If you find yourself depressed and thinking you can't feel good while doing this, then stop and do power words. Power words are a list of happy words (use a thesaurus if you can't think of any). I happen to have over 200 words that make me happy. It can be a place, a thing, or someone, just one word that makes you happy, and continue from there to up lift your feelings so that you can then focus on what you want.
4) Create a bucket list.
Start small and then let the list grow. Life is always going to give more to achieve, more to learn, more to grow. For example, if you always wanted to be an author, but don't know how to write a book, learn to write with an online class.
5) Pay attention to what you are listening to or seeing.
Make it a point to ONLY listen to happy music or see happy things. Don't sit there and agree with a song or movie because you feel like the character or singer is pathetic! STOP! There happens to be happy music in almost every genre of music. Sad music, movies, or TV shows seep into your subconscious and help make you feel bad about yourself. Why do you want that in your life?
See things where the good guys win, the guy gets the girl, the hero saves the day, the movie is hysterically funny, or the romance makes you feel warm and tingly and makes you want that type of love. If it depresses you, it's not good for you.
Life is about CREATING, not going along and letting things happen to you! Don't sit on the sidelines watching others live their dreams. Find a mentor. Read about people you admire. Be inspired! You DO have some control, some choices, so START LIVING YOUR DREAMS!
Shirley Jusino is of Adventure Realty Experience in New York City. You can look her up on Twitter @AdventureRealEX or on Facebook.
Flickr image from Bohari Adventures
Reader Comments (3)
Very insightful article. I enjoyed reading her steps, they were wonderful!!!
Thanks, Valentinno! Yes, I agree. Shirley did an amazing job with her tips - great advice.
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